The Boy That Never Slept Through

When you become a parent you inadvertently become obsessed with sleep patterns, food consumption and bowel movements.

Never in my life have hubbie and I interrogated each other so on the latest poop or poonami, what colour, size, texture and shape…?  How often?  Was it normal? Is he alright?  Does that mean he’s ill…?

Did he eat the green stuff?  How about the hidden veggies?  How much?  How often?  Is it normal?  Is he alright?  Does that mean he’s ill…?

I never needed to ask any questions about sleep though…because I knew.  I knew that sleep was the biggest obstacle for our youngest boy, Mayhem.  The most tiring, debilitating and zombie inducing nightmare experience.

I suppose sleep was also linked with food with Mayhem as he just couldn’t seem to sleep longer than his appetite allowed.  The Mombie newborn phase just never seemed to end.  The cluster feeding definitely slowed down but he literally could not sleep for longer than 2 hours at night without needing a feed!  Oh and two hours was on a good night.  Daytime naps were considerably worse and during the day he couldn’t sleep longer than his forty-five minute sleep cycle without waking up for a feed.  He was a ravenously hungry boy who just simply needed regular feeding and needed the boob to sleep.

We figured it out and came up with a new way of working; I learnt how to feed him whilst he was in a carrier during the day and we co-slept at night.  Life had to go on as there was also Mayhem’s older (by twenty months) brother to entertain and keep up with.  I put a lot of his constant feeding down to the fact that he struggled to breastfeed due to tongue-tie and because he was unwell with, what turned out to be a benign tumour (teratoma).

So we kind of got used to this broken sleep and constant need to feed and just got on with it.  Mayhem would go to bed at night and just wake up, a lot.  Luckily I didn’t have to work, otherwise I would have been a total wreck.  It’s been just over a year now since his surgery, and he’s completely healthy now so there’s no reason at all that he should keep waking up  at night…try telling him that!!

We recently moved from Portugal to Spain and Spain must agree with Mayhem because he’s finally sleeping for longer stretches.  Something’s changed.   Maybe he’s finally caught up after dropping so many percentiles when he was ill.  Maybe he’s realised he can get to sleep without the constant need for the boob.  Maybe just maybe he’s realised an emptyish tummy doesn’t always need filling, although when he’s awake he eats food like he’s starving and shovels it down by the fistful.  Or maybe he’s just growing up.  He’s just about to turn 23 months old, in a month he will be two years old!

But on Saturday night, for the first time ever, he did it.  He finally slept though the night.  After protesting at going to sleep and then eventually falling to sleep by 8.00pm he slept until 5.55am….WOW!!!

Unfortunately he’s not replicated this momentous feat since and the last few nights have been ‘busy’ to say the least but now there is consolation, now there is hope…if he’s done it once he can do it again…Yes!!!

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58 Replies to “The Boy That Never Slept Through”

  • Your boys are beautifull. Thankfully my little man sleeps a little longer than 2 hour stretches but he does wake up once in the night most night. At 1 2 am it is alway boon that gets him back to sleep. I’ve learnt to survive on broken sleep! Great news on the one night full sleep, bet you felt like a new woman!? Thanks for linking up to #FamilyFun, Hope you can come back next week!

    • Thank you for your lovely comment. When he did sleep through on that magic night I was awake worrying about him not waking up…typical!! I can only be jealous that your little guy only wakes up once, I dream of that as it feels more achievable than him sleeping through. But any kind of broken sleep is a killer so you have my deepest sympathies. For my Mayhem the one night was definitely a on-off and he’s back to serial wake-ups…about 5 last night then up at 5am!! Oh the joys of motherhood!

  • Woop woop – congrats ! Took my first till he was 5 to regularly sleep through. My two yr old still wake s. I’m totally lazy and just let them into my bed so that doesn’t help. Long may it continue for you ! #fortheloveofblog

  • Yaaay! So happy for you…we have had a few nights sleeping through but nothing that stuck for very long unfortunately. It’s always something isn’t it, teething or jabs! Hope it continues for you, I feel like a new woman when I’ve had a decent night’s rest. Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam Hope to see you next time x

  • Oh how I remember these days (and by remember, I think of PTSD!) and do not envy you. But they are so darned precious and adorable, thankfully. Our big, she never slept. We hired someone to come and teach us how to get her to sleep, and she had to consult with others. Proud to say, we were her toughest case. Still sleep deprived and finding ways to deposit to the sleep bank, but I may have to acknowledge its time gone by. Wishing you much luck and love with that beautiful bundle! Too cute! #mg #bigpinklink

  • Firstly “hurrah” on the first sleep through. I know it hasn’t been repeated but there is definitely a morale boost from knowing it is at least possible. One day maybe it will become a regular occurrence. My LO still wakes up quite regularly. Usually just once a night but she’s got a cold right now so it’s been a bit more disruptive. It knocks it out of you. I agree with some previous comments about how sleep deprivation isn’t given enough support. Modern society doesn’t accommodate parents (or carers for that matter) who sometimes just don’t get the rest. Have all fingers and toes crossed that you see a repeat sleep-through again soon! #fortheloveofBLOG

    • Thank you Angela for your lovely comment. It really is tough being so sleep deprived. I just thank goodness that I’m not working at the moment as I would fear for my sanity and I know for certain that I would not be cut any slack in the workplace for being ‘tired’. Just to know that he has slept through once is a fantastic comfort and I know that he will do it again…soon…please!! Hope it happens more regularly for you too!

  • It is really hard when your child won’t sleep through! My 1 year old gets up about 4 times a night right now and I’m super fed up! But my eldest was that way too and eventually grew out of it. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. #SundayBest

  • I think sleep must be the number one thing that we parents talk about! My first was a terrible sleeper and my second is brilliant so I tend to think it’s just pot luck what they do! It’s easy to say that now as I’m lucky to have a baby who mostly sleeps through the night but I do remember the torture of sleep deprivation from my son. He didn’t sleep through the night ever until he went to school. Sheer torture. Thanks for sharing on #fortheloveofBLOG

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